{"id":99206,"date":"2022-11-20T06:05:23","date_gmt":"2022-11-20T04:05:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/rdpinto.org\/?p=99206"},"modified":"2022-11-22T23:12:41","modified_gmt":"2022-11-22T21:12:41","slug":"the-partnership-of-peace","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/rdpinto.org\/en\/the-partnership-of-peace\/","title":{"rendered":"The Partnership of Peace"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>The Partnership of Peace<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>A man once came to me, bewailing his lot. He related that his son-in-law beat his wife, this man\u2019s daughter, and treated her with scorn. His daughter suffered incessantly from her despotic husband. <em>Shalom bayit<\/em> was a rarity in their home.<\/p>\n<p>The man added that when he had chosen this young man as a son-in-law, the young man was an indigent pauper. The father-in-law built him up, giving him the money to start up a business. He offered his daughter a handsome dowry to boot. In spite of his magnanimous acts, when the son-in-law became angry (which was too often to recount), he forgot all of the good he got, and flew into a fit of rage against his poor wife.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWhy did you invest so much in your son-in-law, showering him with money?\u201d I inquired.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cI wanted him to feel such a sense of indebtedness toward me so that he would treat my daughter like a princess. But all of my dreams have been shattered. He does not acknowledge any of the good I did for him, and he treats my daughter like a slave woman.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>I wondered what went wrong with the business of buying off the young man. Why did he behave so selfishly and aggressively toward his benefactor? I realized that the young man felt he was a worker for his father-in-law. It is the nature of workers to work as little as possible (<em>Gittin<\/em> 13a). But if the young man would feel like a partner in the business, it would be a different story. With the profits being split between the two, he would put more effort into seeing it succeed.<\/p>\n<p><em>I instructed the man as to how to proceed. Furthermore, I blessed him that his daughter\u2019s marital harmony be restored, forever<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The Partnership of Peace A man once came to me, bewailing his lot. He related that his son-in-law beat his wife, this man\u2019s daughter, and treated her with scorn. His daughter suffered incessantly from her despotic husband. Shalom bayit was a rarity in their home. The man added that when he had chosen this young [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":99599,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"give_campaign_id":0,"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1107],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-99206","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marital-harmony"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/rdpinto.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/99206","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/rdpinto.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/rdpinto.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rdpinto.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rdpinto.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=99206"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/rdpinto.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/99206\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rdpinto.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/99599"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/rdpinto.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=99206"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rdpinto.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=99206"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/rdpinto.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=99206"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}